Why do people give hints..

Why do people give hints when they can just say what they really mean?

 I hate hints, I don't get them and in the end when the bomb is dropped I feel stupid! How could I not see this coming? How could I have no clue? This has happened to me so many times and I can't help but wonder, do I really want to get the hints? If I start reading in to what people ACTUALLY mean then I am starting to doubt what the person is saying and could read into it too much or misunderstand. All and all it's confusing!

Prophet Muhammed said:  “Leave that which makes you doubt for that which does not make you doubt.”

I have applied this hadith in my problem with taking hints..I don't get it, I will doubt it, so I leave it. Simple, right? But I still haven't figured out what to do in that shocking moment when the person just flat out says it, thinking you were prepared for it and realises from your reaction that you never got the HINTS! I think with time I will be less surprised when this happens and not feel so naive, maybe being naive isn't such a bad thing after all. I can't imagine how much time I would waste if I analysed everything people tell me, not worth it.

So I got into thinking, why do people feel like they need to hint something instead of just saying it?

It could be they don't know how you will react if they didn't warn you first or ease you into it,maybe they don't have the guts to say it so they are actually preparing themselves to say it and not you, it could be they don't think you can handle what they have to say.

I have come to terms with this and when it happens again I don't think it will bother me as much, I am better off being naive. I do like looking back and seeing all the signs I missed. What they don't know is that I can handle it, I always do. I get surprised every time but mostly because I didn't see this coming but if they would've just said it in the beginning I would get it. I realized something about myself, I like things to be plain, simple and clear! Complicated is so overrated and I try very hard to keep it out of my life even though it is inevitable at times.

The Prophet (Peace be upon him) said: “Teach! Make things easy! And do not make things complicated!" He repeated this three times.

I love when things are said straight forward, I hate the guessing game..