People change

"Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go."

Today I was standing behind my dad as he was making something while talking to me and I realized something. I realized my dad has changed. I don't know why I just thought of it but I did. I started thinking to myself how my dad isn't the person he was when I was a little girl. True I have changed too, as I am an "Adult" now but still. He looks at things from all angles now and is much more calmer. I know I have changed too, even though it is a bit harder to pinpoint exactly how different I am or how I have grown and matured. I don't like change much and I am not a great adapter but I guess it depends on what's changing; if it's for the better or worse. Sometimes I wish I could just freeze a moment and the people in it so I can enjoy them but it doesn't work that way. I have a hard time letting go of people even when I know it's time to move on.

"Seeing people change isn't what hurts. What hurts is remembering who they used to be."

This is one of my favorite songs when I am feeling a bit tired or just not doing so good. This is actually a good dua' to make as well. I just feel uplifted and at ease when I hear this song. Insha'allah I hope you enjoy it too. :)

You'll be FINE

I think movies and general public opinions give us- especially girls- the wrong idea about making it in life. Growing up I watched all the Disney movies and I love them but unfortunately they don't have the right message. All of them have a similar theme : A poor girl in distress, her prince charming comes saves her and all her troubles are solve and they live happily ever after. So far from reality, first of all there is no such thing as a prince charming, your problems disappearing or happily ever after. YOU are your own prince charming, YOU are your own problem solver, YOU are your own happily ever after and YOU are the only person that can help YOU! Nothing like the movies, right?

Islam is all about taking action and that also goes for your situation. You will never get anywhere waiting around for someone to help you cause nobody will. Besides you will feel much better when you overcome your own difficulty. One of the hardest things for girls and women is to be there own hero, why not you? Why wouldn't you? One of my goals is to be someone and that means different things for different people. For me, it means being able to support myself and make a difference in someones life by being the best I can be and inspiring others.

I refuse to live in some one's shadow, I refuse to be abused by another human being, I refuse to depend on anyone other than myself, and I refuse to loose myself and who I am meant to be. It all starts by believing, having that little bit of faith with determinations goes a long way. You are never alone, no one is even in the darkest of times. Allah is with you, always and forever. That is the only forever you can count on, Allah alone will be with you no matter what. I have heard the saying many times:

" Don't depend on anyone other than Allah, for even your shadow leave you in the dark."

It's true. You should ask yourself : What would I do if I WASN'T afraid? and that is what you should do. Be brave! You can do it!Don't wait around for prince charming and you'll be fine :)